I don't post about my mother very often, actually I think I've only mention her once or twice before. My mother passed away almost 14 years ago on May 2 nd. We never really got along well together, we both have very strong personalities. I'm told I sound like my mother sometimes. My mother was diagnosed with cancer just before Christmas and she passed away 6 months later. Those 6 months my mother and I became really close. Me and my daughter moved in with my parents, my father was in his 70's and wasn't able to take care of her, so those 6 months I took care of her. I washed her, I feed her, I gave her her medicine every 4 hours, I took her to her chemotherapy 3 times a week, and I really got to know my mother as a person. It's a shame that a tragedy of her getting cancer is what took us to become close. Mother's Day was only a few days after her funeral and it was the hardest Mother's Day of my life. Since I'm a mom I know Mother's Day is supposed to be a happy special time for me, but to me there is a sadness about it thinking about my mother and the relationship that we could of had all those years.
Wednesday, April 23, 2008
My Mother
I don't post about my mother very often, actually I think I've only mention her once or twice before. My mother passed away almost 14 years ago on May 2 nd. We never really got along well together, we both have very strong personalities. I'm told I sound like my mother sometimes. My mother was diagnosed with cancer just before Christmas and she passed away 6 months later. Those 6 months my mother and I became really close. Me and my daughter moved in with my parents, my father was in his 70's and wasn't able to take care of her, so those 6 months I took care of her. I washed her, I feed her, I gave her her medicine every 4 hours, I took her to her chemotherapy 3 times a week, and I really got to know my mother as a person. It's a shame that a tragedy of her getting cancer is what took us to become close. Mother's Day was only a few days after her funeral and it was the hardest Mother's Day of my life. Since I'm a mom I know Mother's Day is supposed to be a happy special time for me, but to me there is a sadness about it thinking about my mother and the relationship that we could of had all those years.
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I luv u! I can totally relate to this, because my family has a very strong history of holding grudges, and we have missed out on so much due to that.
What you did for her in the end, is what is important. Be thankful that you had that chance with her.
What a wonderful post... thank you so much for sharing this! Yes, it is unfortunate that it took such a tragedy to bring you two close, but it's good that you had that chance. I understand how your Mother's Days would be laced with a little sadness. I hope this year there's something that adds immense joy to take a little of the sadness away.
Thanks for mentioning the contest. You're the best!
I really appreciated your post. I am glad that you got to know your mom even if it was near the end. That will always be precious. I know what you mean about strong personalities.....
What a beautiful post. Really moved me. It's nice that you were there for her when she needed you. That's what matters most xxx
I'm really sorry about your mother passing. Even if I don't always get along with my own mother, I'd hate to think of life without her. I'm glad that you and your mother had the opportunity to bond and get close at the end though.
Hey Tammy, I'm really sorry to hear about your mom. It must have been really hard for you and your family... but you know I truly believe there is no end to life. We leave our form behind, but our spirits live on forever.
Happy Mother's Day dear. I hope you feel better and see think about the good times instead of the bad :) *hugs*
Hi Tammy,
You've won the contest!! I agree with Petula Wright. Be thankful that you had the 6 months with her. Though is just 6 months but you have the most quality time with her that last a lifetime..Your are indeed a good daughter and done the best you can!
That was a very touching post Tammy! Just be thankful that you got a second chance to get to know her.
So glad that your relationship with your mom improved before she passed away and it's so nice of you to write this post about her.
Felt sad reading this entry about your mom, how sad she passed away quite soon after diagnosed with cancer. Well Tammy, at least, even for 6 months, you did you dues as a daughter. I am sure she is very proud of you.It must have been really hard for you to loose her that way, after getting close to her.
I'm sorry Tammy. I'm not close with my family either. They tend to be kind of cold and distant to everyone.
I wish you had more time to enjoy the closeness you experienced toward the end. That had to have been so hard on you.
Dear Tammy, I have posted this on Tribute to Moms... :-) thanks a lot for participating.. *hugs*
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